Cyber-Friends? Cyber-Backstabbers More Like It!

I Give Up by Kris Heuer

I think I've just about had it when it comes to so-called cyber-friends. These individuals with whom I've had a very long online association with over the years are working my absolute last nerves. I know, I know...friends in the real world can disappoint you as well, but I've just about had it.

For the past five years I've been having fun social networking, and during that time I encountered some interesting people. Naturally, I hit it off with several ladies online, which let to friendships, which in turn lead to closer friendships and eventually we end up being in an long-distance relationship (LDR).

This is where I make my biggest mistake. An online associate once said that online friends should remain just that...online friends.

...and truer words have never been spoken.

Bag Of Potatoes: The Gift Of Forgiveness

One of my teachers had each one of us bring a clear plastic bag and a sack of potatoes to class. For every person we'd refuse to forgive in our life, we were told to choose a potato, write on it the name and date, and put it in the plastic bag. Some of our bags, as you can imagine, were quite heavy. We were then told to carry this bag with us everywhere for one week, putting it beside our bed at night, on the car seat when driving, next to our desk at work. The hassle of lugging this around with us made it clear what a weight we were carrying spiritually, and how we had to pay attention to it all the time to not forget, and keep leaving it in embarrassing places. Naturally, the condition of the potatoes deteriorated to a nasty slime. This was a great metaphor for the price we pay for keeping our pain and heavy negativity! Too often we think of forgiveness as a gift to the other person, and while that's true, it clearly is also a gift for ourselves!

And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen. For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.

Matthew 6:12-14 (KJV)

Author unknown.

Prenuptial Agreement?

I've been thinking about marriage and the difference between back in my grandparents days and the present. Back then, most marriages went without a hitch and believe or not, love was the bond that kept those couples together. Of course the man had to be the provider and all, and maybe I’m incorrect for this, but I don’t think money played too much of a part in marriage back then.

Fast forward to today. Folks are still getting married and besides love, there’s the other factor you have to consider before attaching yourself to your potential mate: Money. Check this out, though: What if one of the parties were independently wealthy prior to the marriage? What if the individual wants to protect their fortune?

What if one of the parties asks for a prenuptial agreement? Is the requirement for a prenup is a wise decision or a very severe lack of trust and faith in the longevity of the pending marriage?

Love or Lust?

Greetings!  I’ll start this off with a simple question: Have you ever had a Love Jones before?

Allow me to clarify my definition…

You meet a person and you two truly feeling each other. Things get so deep that you two actually “go there” . Then after you “go there”, you begin to believe that this person is “the one” for you.

Okay, let me put it to you this way…

Have you world ever been rocked before to the point you didn’t know how to act?

I will say that I have been in this situation at least twice in my adult life. Keep in mind that I was in my late twenties/early thirties when this did occur. Maybe back then I didn’t fully understand what true love was (and to be honest with you, I’m not sure I fully grasp it now). I always had the trouble of differentiating between true love and lust blindness & sensuality. I am a wiser now, but I have to admit that sometimes that line can be blurred at times.

So…

Have you ever mistaken lust for true love?

Home Cookin'

I had a home-cooked meal prepared for me by my lady-friend this evening.  It felt good to have someone else do the cooking for a change.  LOL!

I won't lie though; things are getting very serious that it has me frightened to a degree.  Then to add to the zaniness, ex-girlfriends and former lovers are coming out of the wood works, which to be honest is no surprise.  Of course there are those whose green eyes of envy are shining through.

Is she the one?  Right now she seems like it, but only time will tell.

Relocating For Love?

Folks, it goes without saying that I've had more than my share of relationship woes. I meet a nice young lady in my area, things start of pretty good, then...FLOP! Whose fault this failures are? Well, it all depend on who you talk to, LOL...

Anyhoo, my relationships with the local ladies simply doesn't work out too well. On the other hand, I was involved in an long distance relationship (LDR) several years ago which was also one of my longest-lasting relationship to date. Things were really great between DA and I. What's even funny is the fact that we were friend first and things just simply flowed into some more serious.